So you may be thinking, why is a dating app’s blog posting about self love? It’s because everything wonderful and magical and healthy, including healthy relationships, starts with self love.
There's been a lot of talk about self love lately and I'll admit, I didn't always fully love myself. I allowed relationships which didn't serve me to last past their expiration date, I discounted myself, and I cared too much about what other people thought of me. It took lessons learned throughout my life, past relationships, and the realization that so many women I cared about - both close family and friends - had been victims of abuse to teach me the lesson of what real romantic love is and most importantly what self love is.
Self love isn't selfish. It is loving and respecting yourself so much that you do not allow toxicity in your relationships, that you make your health and happiness your top priorities, and that you follow your own bliss and excitement to create and live the life you want. Everything starts with self love because when we come from that place of love and happiness, that energy spreads and we are able to be our best selves in everything we do and show up the best for other people. Like everything, loving ourselves more takes practice and a mindset shift. Here are a few simple ways to show yourself some love each day:
Start each day with gratitude. Think of a few qualities about yourself that you love. You could be a great friend, or have a funny personality quirk, or simply acknowledge that you are a good person. Whatever it is, be thankful.
Give yourself a little bit of me time everyday. This could be as simple as giving yourself the time to enjoy your morning cup of coffee, doing a 5 minute meditation, working out or simply stretching, or even treating yourself to a massage. Whatever it is, do you.
Treat your body with respect. Eat well and move more. You are sacred. Treat your body as such.
Focus on the positive. I don't believe in discounting feelings and if you need to acknowledge your pain and sadness you should, but don’t allow yourself to wallow in that sadness. There is a rainbow behind every cloud if you allow yourself to see it. Everything happens for you and not to you. Open yourself up to learn the lesson. If you need help, seek it.
Watch your language. Accept compliments wholeheartedly. If someone compliments what you did for them, say thank you. Don't say it was no big deal. For the women, if someone tells you you're pretty or says your outfit is cute, don't tell them that you think you look horrible. Talk to yourself like you would a friend.
Foster the genuine and supportive relationships in your life. Loving those people is an extension of the love you give yourself.
What's your favorite way to show yourself a little love?
Melissa, co-founder, BrushPass Dating