There are countless articles and advice columns such as “10 steps to getting commitment from him” or “how to get out of her “friend-zone’” that apparently contain secrets and spells to having the relationship of your dreams. Not!!! These “educational materials” don’t have bad intentions, even though they all seem to indicate that there is an actual proven way to making someone reciprocate your feelings. Of course being needy isn’t attractive, but, to the person who likes you, your so-called neediness translates into a desire to wanting to spend time together and get to know each other.
On one hand confidence is attractive, but, to the person who likes you, your shy demeanor or your social anxiety are the most adorable quirks in the world. To the person who likes you, your body is a wonderland no matter the size. The person who likes you will not care if you make mistakes or send a text message too soon or kiss on the first date. The person who likes you just simply wants to be around you, and no catastrophe or schedule conflicts can stop them from getting to that date on time. How will you know that they like you? It’s honestly the most obvious thing in the world to notice – the same way that you notice a blue sky. You might second-guess your ability to read the signs after a million of disappointing encounters, but underneath those fears you will know in your heart that the person absolutely likes you. And there’s nothing monumental that you have to do to be worthy of that. It’s really that easy.
But you ask “How can it be so easy? I’ve been looking for love for such a long time, I’ve opened so many doors and dated so many people!” By easy I don’t mean frequent. True connection and compatibility are VERY RARE. That is why it’s so special when you find it. If it wasn’t rare, it wouldn’t feel that special, would it? You wouldn’t treasure it as much. Because it’s rare, it will take time to find it. Because it’s rare, you must meet as many people as possible to see if there’s a spark. That’s the only way to increase the odds of finding your person. In the meantime, you are your person, and you decide how you want to experience your life. Don’t waste your time researching topics like “make him fall in love” or “best ways to ask her out”. Do spend time researching your own mind and soul about the things that truly inspire you and make you glow from the inside. That light is bound to touch the one who is already looking for you.