We never want to say we’re wrong, but I was wrong in a past relationship. I fell for words, not actions. I was blinded by the person one boy presented to me and to the world, only to find that all along, he was trying to be someone who he is not. However, this relationship ended a long time ago, and I look back with thanks that all of this happened. I’ve forgiven myself. I’ve forgiven the situation. I’ve forgiven him. This is because I know now what forgiveness is.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning the wrong. It doesn’t mean discounting your feelings. It doesn’t mean giving up your power. It doesn’t mean that what happened was ok. Forgiveness means accepting that the past happened as it did knowing that it couldn’t have been any other way. Forgiveness is accepting and letting go. There is no changing the past. There is only living in the beauty of the present and smiling at whatever adventures the future holds.
I’m thankful because I needed to learn the lesson. I needed to learn more about what love was not. I needed to figure out how to love myself so much that such toxicity could never exist again in my life. As a result of this and other experiences and observations, I can truly say that I love myself so damn much that I will never fall for another person like this again.
We all want to be liked. We all want to be loved. We all show a certain face to the world in order to attain this like and have this love, but some people show an exterior very different from what’s inside the shell. Let’s be more honest, more genuine, more real, and let’s also be honest about the excuses we make for other people.
I wish you all an honest and mutual love, and until that relationship comes and even when it does, keep your focus on loving the shit out of your beautiful self. Toxicity and self love cannot coexist.
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